An "abandoned" buffer is a buffer you left without saving changes.
If you have set nohidden
(the default value), Vim generally warns you about unsaved changes when you try to leave a modified buffer. When you force your way with a bang, the previous buffer becomes "abandoned" and you loose all your unsaved changes.
If you have set hidden
, modified buffers are kept in their current state when you leave them so they are — technically — never "abandoned". You will still get a warning if you try to quit Vim with unsaved changes.
As long as it's still displayed in a window, a buffer can't be thought of as "hidden" or "abandoned" so your buffers currently displayed in another window in another tab page are neither "hidden" nor "abandoned".